Boomers have re-defined nearly every aspect of their lives, and dating is no exception. You’ve likely changed a bit since you attended your first dance or went on your first date those several-decades-ago-but-seems-like-yesterday, and you can use your experience to your advantage as you strike out to meet other Boomer-something singles.
There are no rules for dating, except to be as honest – with yourself and your dates – as possible about what you want from the relationship, and to present yourself with the same type of care for your appearance and attitude that you expect from your date.
According to Dr. Janet Blair, a psychotherapist and author of “Get Married This Year: 365 Days to ‘I Do’,” this is the time of your life to enjoy your dating experience. “Don’t keep dating anyone who doesn’t help you feel good about yourself,” she says. Bailing out of a relationship that isn’t fulfilling to you is what she refers to as “weeding the garden,” which Blair recommends in order to stay true to yourself.
Assuming you’ve already had a relationship (or relationships), raised a family and had interests or a career, you are able to draw upon your life’s experiences to meet a dating partner who will appreciate the person you are now. You don’t have to share your life story when you begin dating someone, but it’s likely that the things you’ve done and places you’ve traveled will make for interesting conversation as you get to know one another.
How do you go about meeting other Boomer singles?
- Make a conscious effort to look your best wherever you go. Those places you frequent – church, the market, movies or plays, walking trails, etc. – are prime places to meet someone who shares your interests.
- Read. Studies show that people who have more life experience are attracted to “interesting” people and are less focused on physical appearance alone.
- Get comfortable talking to new people. Joining a social or civic club, or even a local “Toastmasters” chapter, will help you feel more comfortable starting and carrying on a conversation about a variety of topics.
- Smile. Humans have the unique ability to communicate volumes with this single facial expression – often one of the favorite features noted by an individual about his or her spouse or partner!
Each Windsong active retirement community was designed to help Boomers cultivate new friendships, with walkable streets and a private fitness center in the clubhouse, neighbors with similar life-stage experiences, and home designs that maximize accessibility, minimize hassles and provide opportunities to enjoy an active lifestyle without sacrificing style or luxury.
Welcome home to Windsong – Where Life’s A Breeze!